My wife and I are old enough that funerals have long replaced weddings as obligations to show up in a church.

We can suffer the malarkey, but we do not like faiths where participants insist upon turning to shake the hands of others and profess faith. Even before COVID we didn't want to do that because it is pretense: We do NOT share their faith and only respect their right to have it, not the belief itself.

So, if we cannot separate ourselves physically by going in after everyone else and finding a place too far away for that, we turn around and leave unless family politics makes that too rude.